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Don’t Become a Bridezilla!

You have probably have heard the term “Bridezilla,” a common name for brides who get overly consumed with the planning of their wedding. Not only does this put a sour taste in the mouth of the bridal party, but it can also hinder the relationship with the groom. Wedding planning can be stressful, but following a few simple tips can ensure your experience is more blissful than stressful.

Here are a few tips to avoid becoming a Bridezilla:

• Be flexible with your vision: If your wedding vision isn’t going to work out exactly how you want, stay calm. If your groom throws in his two cents, let him have a say…even if it doesn’t meet your expectation. It’s his wedding too! Avoid looking at “what isn’t right,” and keep the positive in sight. Be flexible and know that the wedding will still be special and perfect.

• Take a breather: If you’re having a hard time and feel your blood about to boil, take a break. Step away from the situation, put the vendor on hold, or exit to the restroom to take a breather. Calm your nerves and regulate your emotions before you respond.

• Don’t sweat the small stuff: Don’t nitpick at the groom’s ideas, mom’s help, or the vendor’s work. If the font isn’t just right on the invitations, or the color of the flowers is a different shade than expected, don’t take it too hard. These details are important but they won’t be what you cherish most after the big day is over.

• Say “please” and “thank you:” Your wedding is a life-changing event. It can consume us so much that we may overlook the people helping out. Acknowledge that others are there supporting you. The more you acknowledge their hard work, the more open they will be to continue helping.

• Keep your Relationship on the Radar: Instead of spending every day and night working on wedding planning, put it on hold and enjoy your husband-to-be. Focus on him, spend time relaxing and enjoying the engagement and be playful with one another. Keep your relationship on the radar and show your partner that your loving and passionate side is still around. Tie the knot with a strong foundation and a healthy bond.

• Nurture your friendships: If you’re out with your girlfriends, keep the wedding talk to a minimum. Take time to call your friends and ask them how they are doing. Nurture your friendships and it can help the wedding day flow even better with the loving hearts of friends by your side.

• Avoid the “military time” schedule: Schedules and itineraries can be helpful to keep people on track, but be sure to relax and enjoy the experience. If you are making a day-of wedding itinerary, give wiggle room!

• Vendors are human too: Be realistic with your expectations and let vendors know in a caring and respectful way if you are disappointed or upset.  Ask for help if you’re confused about their contract or would like to make changes to the package you bought.

• Enjoy being the Bride: It’s your big day, and you only get married once. The day will go fast and the moments will be filled with emotion. Don’t forget to enjoy it!

Jennine E. Estes is a Marriage and Family Therapist San Diego. Learn more at Estes Therapy or Relationships in the Raw. 
 

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